Confession: If I rode a horse like a drove a car I’d be an eventer.
I’ve been referred to as an aggressive yet defensive driver. What does that mean? Well, it means I can drive in New York City like a taxi, and expect others to cut me off at any minute. So why am I comfortable there but on the back of a horse I question my every decision.
- Are my shoulders too far forward?
- Am I properly balanced in my seat?
- Are people watching me, judging me?
- Am I good enough?
Notice, I never question my horse. In fact, any of the horses I ride. I always question myself. Always.
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I drive with purpose, comfort, and knowledge that I can likely overcome any obstacle on the road. And yet, a few weeks ago there was a big snowstorm as I drove home from a massage appointment. The snow fell quickly and heavily. By the time I reached the onramp to the interstate, it was slick and deep. I slowly eased on to the road but my 4WD could not grip and I found myself losing control, bouncing off the onramp divider like a pinball.
As it is with horses, things moved quickly. The bounce likely saved my life or I would have found my car drifting across three lanes of highway traffic involving semi trucks. Instead, my instincts and the bounce meant that I tapped the brakes and when they wouldn’t work, threw my transition into park, stomped on the emergency brake and attempted to ride up the shoulder until I finally slid to a stop.
Immediately I checked my rear view for oncoming traffic, turned the car off, and exited the vehicle to check for damage.
Imagine my surprise when there was none.
Equestrians have razor-sharp instincts they have honed over years of spooks, shies, and bucks at some unexpected time. I’m convinced that my quick instincts prevented me from causing a multi-car collision on the highway. With shaking hands and nerves of steel, I got back in that car and drove home with my hazards on in the slow lane, another 45 minutes.
My tension was through the roof but I was proud of myself for not giving in and calling someone to pick me up on the side of the road. My car was fine, I was fine, and yet I white-knuckled it through.
The next day, it was like it never happened and I drove without incident. When it snowed a week later I was nervous but drove carefully.
Why can’t I do the same with horses? I know my instincts are both natural and quick. And yet somehow I am always expecting that slide…that accident to happen even when it isn’t “snowing”.
I drive fearlessly, knowing that I can handle any situation that comes my way. Is it too much to ask that I have the same with horses?