Origins of an Equestrian Writer
Confessions of a Timid Rider,  Equestrian Life,  Writing

Origins of an Equestrian Writer

I remember it clearly. The two-sided push from both my client and my business partner while chatting during a massage session on day last fall that created the origins of an equestrian writer. 

“You should write a blog!”


Origins of an Equestrian Writer


The idea had niggled at the back of my mind for awhile. I’ve been writing, privately, since I was a young girl. Of all things that I loved as a child, it was horses and writing. But I held myself back. Very few people have ever read my writing. I was unwilling to take criticism, which I expected in truckloads. Eventually, I let self doubt stop me from even trying anymore. I did not pursue my dreams because I feared failure. 


What could I possibly write that others would read? What makes what I have to say so important?


The last year has brought so many incredible changes, personally and professionally. I chose not to return to publishing and a regular salary. Instead, I chose to start my own business. A huge leap of faith and a gigantic risk. After all, we all know how often small businesses don’t make it. I could not have done it without the support of my family, especially my husband.

But starting my own company gave me the confidence I apparently needed. I’m an equine and canine sports massage therapist, and incredibly proud of it. To have both my business partner and client say to me that they would be interested in my writing, was really meaningful to me. It was the nudge that I needed. 



But what to write?  I don’t own a horse yet. I love horses, but my confidence on them goes up and down depending on any given day. It’s often a gradual increase in successes followed by something that makes me take a few steps back. Then I sat and thought about it. Why not write about this very thing? Surely other equestrians have felt like I do at some point? 


Heather Wallace, Bridle & Bone
I am proudly accompanying my twin daughters for their first horse show.


I decided to write for myself and not worry anymore what others thought. Easier said than done, but I did it. I scribbled out my thoughts on a notepad because that was the nearest thing available. The words simply poured out of me like racehorses at the gate just waiting to be unleashed.


I surprised even myself with this visceral need.


I started with the intention to write primarily about “safe” topics I deal with everyday in my practice such as health and wellness for horses and dogs. But the true heart of Bridle & Bone is about my personal experiences as a returning adult equestrian. The Confessions of a Timid Rider series is my personal diary: a glimpse into my deepest thoughts, feelings, triumphs, and insecurities about riding.


I wrote my first blog post in a busy kitchen while my children played and my dogs begged for food. Share on X


Confession time: I didn’t start blogging as a way to gain readers or to earn money. I started blogging because I had something to say and I hoped it would help other people. Writing these posts are terrifying yet they give me solace. The very act of writing helps me to identify what I am doing that I can make better. Sharing my story? Less scary than I initially thought. The positive feedback is overwhelming, not only from equestrians but others who have faced their fears to do what they love.

One reader commented:

“Great post. I found your blog via Google, but it was just what I needed today. I am in a full-blown funk this winter with an endless string of bad rides, strange “mistakes” that led to falls, and bizarre illnesses and injuries. Coming off of an awesome season last year with 100% plans to move up, I now find myself dangerously close to the spring season starting and zero confidence in my ability. Like you said, one option is to “step back” but I know that is not the answer. I have read and studied every sports psychology book on the planet, and upped my riding to almost daily adding in every “trick” to improve…yet I find myself in constant “how did that happen” lessons. I have decided it is a funk or a phase that we just have to get through…it might take lot of sweat and tears (and maybe a little blood)…but I just have to gut through the funk and get back tot the good.”


Knowing that others not only relate to my story but can be inspired to power through and face their own fears, is a gift I never dreamed.


I am so proud of how much I have learned and thankful for the people I have met. Gone are the days where I sit nervously before hitting “Publish”. Now I am proud to share my story. I’ve realized that there are a lot of equestrians who can relate to my journey. Seeing how far I’ve come in just a few months gives me the strength to keep pushing myself forward and try new things. I’ve been interviewed on camera and off; interviewed authors and eventers; written guest posts and sponsored reviews; and even written a book. All this in less than one year of blogging.


Will I always be successful? Nope. I hope to learn from my failures as much as from my successes. Share on X


For years I let the fear of not being good enough to write stop me from even trying. My blog, Bridle & Bone, has provided a freedom that I never expected. More than anything blogging has taught me to to trust my self, my writing, and take chances. Do I have more to learn about being an equestrian blogger? Absolutely. I can’t wait.

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    • Heather Wallace

      I know I’m shocked too. It’s not for lack of trying though! My husband is pretty hesitant about taking on a 1200 lb accident-prone animal. I don’t get it 😉 Thank you for your lovely comments.

  • Confessions of an Average Amateur Eventer

    Lovely story! I think we can all relate in fearing that we aren’t good enough to write a blog, wondering who in the world would want to listen to us! But what a good feeling it is when you have enough confidence to go for it!

    And thank you Heather for creating this fab Blog Hop!

  • Cathy Armato

    I think your writing has a lot of information and a lot of heart! That’s a wonderful combination. Your passion, along with your triumphs as well as struggles shine through. It’s very real and I think people really respond to that. I’m so glad you started your blog and that you’re a part of the BlogPaws community as well!!
    Love & Biscuits,
    Dogs Luv Us and We Luv Them

  • Carol Bryant

    I absolutely love getting to know about horses and you through this blog and by connecting via BlogPaws. So happy to have you in the community. You are providing a valuable blog that many learn from, so thank you!

    • Heather Wallace

      Carol, thank you so much. I have learned so much from BlogPaws and gained much confidence as well. So glad I joined! Can’t believe it’s been less than a year. I have met so many wonderful people and gained priceless advice.

  • Debbie Bailey

    Im so glad you decided to start blogging! I don’t ride and I’ll never own a horse, but I like your writing and storytelling. I love this line so much: “The words simply poured out of me like racehorses at the gate just waiting to be unleashed.” You have a good voice and I’m glad you’ve opened the gates!

    • Heather Wallace

      Thanks Debbie, that’s my favorite line too. 😉 I realize not everyone rides or loves horses, but if you can enjoy and relate to the theme of my writing then I consider myself successful.

  • DashKitten

    We are like you. We felt we had something to say and blogging is a great way to get important messages across. (Well people visit so we must be getting something right I guess). If I am not careful I can go back and tinker and fuddle with a post because I m not happy with it but we need to have faith and confidence in our own abilities.

    We need to remember we have something to offer. We can inspire, encourage and even make people laugh. Blog readers return time and again for what we offer.

    You are doing brilliantly!

    • Heather Wallace

      xoxo Marjorie! I am guilty of too much self-editing in my former years. Once I decided to break free of that, writing came much easier. Still hard not to revise and adjust a few times before hitting the “Publish” button though!

    • Heather Wallace

      You should! Some equestrian bloggers focus on riding, but others have fun personal experience stories, and even cover equestrian sports. There is such an array, even in so small a niche. Something for everyone.

  • Sweet Purrfections

    I began my blog as an escape from the everyday stresses of life. It became a daily diary of my previous cat’s life. I didn’t begin making money (still a small amount) until about 3 years ago and I’ve been blogging for over 9 years. I enjoy coming to your blog.

    • Heather Wallace

      I love that you have so much experience. It must have been awesome to see blogging evolve from personal diaries for most, to the new influencer model that is so popular (and of course somewhere in between). I can only imagine what it will be in another 10 years.

  • Enviro_Dog

    I always love reading your blog Heather. You’re always so open and honest – I think that’s why I love reading them. Such a bold step to start your own business as a massage therapist for horses and dogs – sounds like an ideal job!

    • Heather Wallace

      Thank you so much. That means the world to me. It is the BEST job! The biggest hurdle is educating the world about the health benefits of massage outside of the “luxury” aspect many view. We’ve started working with several veterinarians, and hope to help as many animals as possible.

  • Stephanie Seger

    What a beautiful post! I am in awe of you, Heather! Truly! I admire your courage and honesty about your fears and the fact that you are overcoming them so publicly everyday. I do think you, your blog, and your writing were put here for a reason; to inspire and help others and as a model for your sweet children.

    • Heather Wallace

      xoxoxo! I could not ask for more than to show my daughters that sometimes the things you are most afraid of, are the things you MUST do to be happy. My oldest is creating her own dog school. Neighborhood posters are up everywhere. LOL.

  • Kamira Gayle

    I love this reflective post. I love how your two peers suggested ” Why not create a blog?’ I had similar beginnings…my husband suggested the same. Glad you overcame your fear to start blogging. You’ve come a long way in a year. You really should be proud of yourself. I love all the support and positive feedback people online provide. Like you, that’s something that’s an unexpected blessing. I wish you continued success Heather! You’re on the right track.

  • Sadie

    I’m so glad you took that leap of faith – it suits you! I find writing incredibly therapeutic and if it speaks to others, even better. You have a beautiful site and I enjoy your insight.

  • Rodney's Saga

    Being a show mom is a hard gig. When my husband started showing, I found it WAY harder to watch from the sidelines than be the one in the ring. Maybe that’s where your horse energy is going at the moment?

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